Wedding Timeline Planning: Should You Have a First Look on Your Wedding Day? Pros, Cons, and Honest Advice and When to do it
- Tom Keene
- Jul 17
- 2 min read
Should You Have a First Look? Pros, Cons, and Honest Advice
It's one of the biggest decisions to make in your wedding photo timeline: Do you want a first look, or do you want to see each other for the first time walking down the aisle? We’ve photographed both styles, and each offers its own kind of magic. Let’s walk through the pros, cons, and real questions to ask yourself before deciding.
What Is a First Look?
A first look is when the couple sees each other privately before the ceremony—usually in a beautiful setting, captured on camera in a way that allows the photographer to see a reaction. Sometimes there are two involved and that is usually reserved for the bride and her father and then another one with her husband. This is also true of same sex couples but as you can imagine it can be a timely process so plan ahead.
Pros of Doing a First Look
Private Emotional Moment: You get to cry, hug, laugh, and talk without hundreds of eyes on you.
More Portrait Time: You can complete couple and family photos before the ceremony, freeing up cocktail hour.
Calms the Nerves: We’ve seen nervous jitters melt away after a first look.
💬 Ask Yourself:
Are we more comfortable expressing emotions privately than in front of a crowd?
Would we prefer to join our guests at cocktail hour?
Cons of a First Look
Breaks Tradition: Some couples feel strongly about waiting until the aisle.
Earlier Start Time: Your hair, makeup, and prep must be done earlier in the day.
Lighting Challenges: Midday light (for earlier photos) isn’t always ideal—but we can work around it.
💬 Ask Yourself:
Is that moment walking down the aisle too special to see each other beforehand?
Are we okay starting the day earlier to gain more photo time and or time with our guests?
Our Advice as Your Photographers
There’s no wrong answer—but the best choice is the one that reflects your values and vision. We’re here to help you weigh your options, scout the best location for a first look if you choose one, and plan your timeline around it. Some couples have also opted for a first touch, where you don't see each other but can be hidden in a way that allows you to touch and not see each other.
Final Note:
Whether or not you do a first look, we’ll make sure your experience and your gallery reflect the heart of your relationship. Want to explore timeline options with us?
